Sexy Time

***WARNING*** If you are a family member or close friend of mine who does NOT want to read about my sex life or would have trouble forgetting the words that I am about to share, than please stop here, do not read any further. I cannot be blamed if your eyes start to burn or your gag reflex kicks in - you have been warned.

Does any other married couple feel like they don't have enough sex? It's not one-sided, Kevin and I both agree; we should be having more. The desire is there but the days are moving so fast and our energy level is on empty by the time we get home. We have always stuck to the routine of sex at night, before bed, and the only reason I can think of is because I get so tired after an orgasm. Multiple orgasms could literally put me in a coma 😂. I feel euphoric and peaceful when my body experiences that release, my mind goes blank and other than a bit of vibration in my upper thigh's; I am ready for some sweet sleep. I am always in my own head, planning, organizing, thinking about the next task and my never-ending to-do list. Being this anxious, on the regular, makes it very difficult for me to relax and allow myself to feel good. It has taken me a long time to admit that I am deserving of pleasure and my patient spouse deserves the best part of me, I don't have to hide or be ashamed of anything. The last few occasions where we indulged in Sexy Time, we had to plan it either right after work or mid-afternoon (if it was a weekend). It was great, no excuses, and we got the job done 😉. The pattern of exercising in the early morning, working all day (in the heat of summer), coming home to cook and clean and then try to relax for an hour or two; has left us both drained. And as I said, the days melt into one another, we head to bed at a decent hour and make a promise to each other, 'can we do it tomorrow?' or 'can we just cuddle tonight?' Some people work opposite shifts, or have young children whose needs come first, or maybe even roommates or living with family where space and privacy can be a factor; all those things make our situation seem like a walk in the park. I am not saying it is harder for us than for other couples; I just wanted to put it out there, as a happy, sexually-attracted-to-my-spouse, husband and wife team - we wish we could do it more. Here's how I know we are both on the same page... After the 'task' is complete, we are both smiling from ear to ear and we often say, 'Wow! We should do more of that!’ If you're in a relationship that has a similar hurdle, you are not alone, most important thing is communication and understanding. I just hope I communicated my point and my husband understands why I talk about our personal life on my blog for the world to read 😬.